Eegore wrote on 01/17/19 at 14:40:07:"Again, we make emotional decisions and justify them afterwards with the facts we want."
I partially agree.
Again, we consistently choose to make emotional decisions and justify them afterwards with the facts we want.
This formula for communication can be stopped at any time.
Not really. Think about purchasing a product with very specific specification. When faced with multiple selections, its easy to factually toss out the ones that are on the low range of meeting spec. Once you get to a point where the specs are all met or each are superior in factors that are equal in importance, your decision is emotional. In fact, at that point, your decision is based on your account manager, a commercial, the name of the company, the color, the shape of the packaging, if they bought you lunch etc....
Now look at this debate. There are many people who say a wall is absolutely needed. Some of those people live on the border, some work protecting the border etc.... You've minimized those opinions and stick with your line that those who do the work should decide. Yet, you only factor in the opinions of those who do the work that you emotionally agree with. You refuse to see the obvious connection that many who say a wall is not needed are the ones who's career is border security. A wall is a very visible reminder their efforts were not enough. No one wants to be replaced, no one wants to be told they aren't doing the job. That influences their decision. Consider that a little closer.
Reading your post and piecing together what you do, I suspect the level of work you do is similar to mine. I just spent 5 days at a conference sitting in on specifications committees and adding input to specs that all of you on here are impacted from. As someone who recognizes this phenomenon of emotional decisions in others, I recognize when I fall into the same mode, but it can't be stopped for long.